How do I know if it's too soon after my child's death to
No one can say
with certainty when is the right time to come to a meeting.
Sometimes family members come shortly after the child has
died while other times they wait longer. Some people who
attend shortly after the child's death may decide not to come back
until they're more ready. This is a personal
Do I need a reservation before I come to a
are needed. Just come whenever you feel up to
If I go to a meeting, will I
have to talk?
No one is required to talk at any meeting. We understand how
difficult that can be when our grief is so fresh. We do ask that
you listen, however.
Is there a charge to
never a charge to attend a TCF meeting. Our chapters rely on
voluntary donations from members,
friends, and the community at large.
My child was an adult and didn't live at home. Can I still go to a
are open to all families that have experienced the death of a
child, at any age, from any cause. Regardless of our child's age,
we in TCF believe our children will always be thought of as just
that . . . our children.
My spouse won't come with me. Can I come
Yes. We all
grieve differently and your spouse or significant other may not be
ready to take part just yet . . . or ever.
Do men attend meetings?
chapters are divided almost evenly between men and women while
others are not. Men grieve, too, and are welcome to attend meetings
My child died from _____.
Will I still be welcome?
Yes. All families that have experienced
the death of a child at any age, from any cause, are
Religion doesn't matter to me anymore. Can people at a meeting
The Compassionate Friends has no religious affiliation. You
will find TCF members are very tolerant of any views. After the
death of a child, many priorities, as well as values,
I notice the meeting is
in a church. Do I have to belong to a church to
While TCF has no religious affiliation,
chapter meetings are held in a wide variety of locations depending
upon what is available in our communities.
My child died seven years
ago, and I postponed my grief work. Now it's catching up with
Is it too late to come now?
We all grieve differently. Many parents
don't feel the need for a support group until years after the
death of a child. It's all right to come whenever you are ready,
whether it's soon after your child's death, months later, or years
How long do people come
People attend meetings until they no longer
feel a need. Some attend just a few meetings while others come for
years. Some are so thankful for the helpful support they've
received that they stay to help in chapter leadership so they can
be there for the next persons who walk through the doors seeking
Why is it that TCF
recommends that I attend three meetings before deciding if
Often, the first
meeting brings a lot of emotions to the surface and this may make
the first meeting difficult. Some say that they bring home the pain
of others after listening to their stories. Attending three
meetings gives you time enough to allow your emotions to even out
and to understand that in sharing there is